5 more minutes
Your skin like dawn
Mine like musk
One paints the beginning
of a certain end.
The other, the end of a
As my alarm (Finn) went off, my first thought was, ‘please, just a little more time.’ Like our children who always want to stay up a little longer, play a little more and read one more story, our innate desire for just a little more time is constant. As we age, our interests and responsibilities shift but our appreciation of time’s lack is ever present: I want to eat better, but I don’t have the time. I want to organize my life, but I can’t find the time. I would love to write a book, but I just don’t have time.
We all have 24 hours in a day. It doesn’t matter if you are old, young, black, white, rich, poor, man or woman. Time is the great equalizer across all people. To many, time is a most prized commodity and would be traded for $$ any day of the week. Perhaps this isn’t always the case, but I, personally, often lament the passage of time in my own life.
Many days I lay in bed and wonder: What did I even do today? Did I make a difference? Does my life even have meaning? Where did the time go? (Literally and figuratively as my eldest is now on the sunrise of 10 years old.) How do some people seemingly make every second count? Rachel Hollis - I’m looking at you! While I’m sitting in the dark trying to get a kid to nap or changing a poopy diaper (repeat. repeat. repeat.) All. Day. Long.
Here is total honestly: sometimes I feel really worthless. I hate that. So here is how I beat it.
First, I accept my feelings instead of fighting them. This is so important and NOT how I lived 36 years of my life. It is OK to feel. You deserve to feel. You are worthy of these feelings. As silly and ridiculous as you may think they are, sit in it, journal about it, pray about it, talk about it. Emotions gain power over you when held captive - don’t let it. Second, what can you do about it today? There is always something. Maybe it’s praying. Maybe it’s just acknowledging. Maybe it’s making a shift in HOW you are doing something. Make a change no matter how small. Third, I evaluate how I am spending my time and if they are aligned with my priorities. Sometimes that means reevaluating my priorities.
What I have come to find in my wisdom of 36 years, I say it as much for you as me, time is not the problem. Priorities and focus are the problem.
Here’s another gem. We can not put focus on more than one thing at a time. I love this analogy: Take a handful of pebbles and throw them in a pond. You get a few little disruptions, but very quickly the pond is as it was, right? Now instead, drop a big boulder into the pond. What happens? A huge disruption and a ripple effect that can be felt far from the drop spot. Exactly. This is the point. How often do you feel like you are not making any progress, not showing up, not doing well in every area of your life? I do all the time. This is why. Too many pebbles. All those things that you want to do, go and do them. One big rock at a time.
Some seasons are different than other seasons. They will require more of you in one area than the next. Respect that. Honor that. Show up fully and give your time to the one thing that is most important right now. Maybe it is your kids. Maybe it is your job. Maybe it is dealing with a major life event. Maybe it is that book you always wanted to write. Maybe it is losing the weight and taking healthy back. Whatever it is, it is your choice. It is your life. It is your priority. How cool is that? The era of multitasking is over. Give your priorities, your people, your goals and YOU the focus it deserves and watch those mountains move. I will to.